tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6483002518273802745.post3420454370308729623..comments2023-05-02T05:01:50.261-05:00Comments on A Researcher Of Life: In My 20s Tuesday + Post-It Notes: The New Types of Families Aren't Readily Accepted By Some EldersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6483002518273802745.post-60013132098630365512010-06-11T09:31:11.233-05:002010-06-11T09:31:11.233-05:00@Kerri&Shaun: You are lucky indeed about that....@Kerri&Shaun: You are lucky indeed about that. You may have hit the family jackpot in terms of being free to make decisions about your life without having to suffer their wrath.<br />Also, I've never tried the baked tomatoes, but I will next time I go to a Ruth's Chris.<br /><br />@ Kristen T.: I believe you are right. Trying to convince him that his principles are wrong isn't going to work. I don't intend to have this convo with him again. I'll cross that bridge the day I marry someone with a child or sign adoption papers.CeCehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07354750386371401828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6483002518273802745.post-63541227246776453682010-06-08T21:00:45.392-05:002010-06-08T21:00:45.392-05:00Hi again -- I think my best advice for you is to n...Hi again -- I think my best advice for you is to not fight the battle of words with your grandfather. You are unlikely to win that. (We have lost with my mother-in-law). Instead, we decided what was best for our children, and made decisions based on that. We wanted their grandmother in their lives more than we needed my husband's extended step-family. It was a trade-off.kt moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02704051491887594074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6483002518273802745.post-19812609082504539432010-06-08T18:25:39.575-05:002010-06-08T18:25:39.575-05:00I'm pretty lucky in regards to family - we are...I'm pretty lucky in regards to family - we aren't going to have kids and nobody in my family has ever made any kind of peep about it (even my mom-in-law). <br /><br />Your grandpa should know that *every* child deserves a loving home, that it takes a whole lot more than giving birth to be a true mom to a child.<br /><br />Also, baked tomato at Ruth's Chris - OMG, so good!Kerri&Shaunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11207358808818783345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6483002518273802745.post-71548626827996983422010-06-08T12:58:34.243-05:002010-06-08T12:58:34.243-05:00Oh wow, I can't imagine that. To have to not e...Oh wow, I can't imagine that. To have to not even attend family gatherings must be horrible! I wonder if her husband knew she would ignore his entire family after they got married...<br /><br />I suppose it would be easier for me because I don't see my grandfather very often, so there wouldn't be too many missed opportunities. But I think my family would understand if I chose to not be around him rather than leave half my children behind.CeCehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07354750386371401828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6483002518273802745.post-59605736448426065532010-06-08T08:12:35.127-05:002010-06-08T08:12:35.127-05:00Hey CeCe -- Unfortunately, there are a lot more pe...Hey CeCe -- Unfortunately, there are a lot more people out there with this opinion than you think. Don't let this deter you. I've struggled with how my husband has been told by his mother he has to deal with his step-family (her husband's family). <br /><br />While growing up, he called them cousins, aunts and grandparents, now as an adult, he is not allowed to interact with them because they are not his "real" family. <br /><br />The fact that they are a different race than him seems to solidify his mother's opinion that there is no reason for him to relate with these people, even though THEY consider him part of the family. <br /><br />In order to keep his mother happy, we have not attended many events that we have been invited to. It's sad to have to "lose family" over this.kt moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02704051491887594074noreply@blogger.com